October 9, 2012
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RWOTD {Other}
I have been frustrated by this fact lately: Blogging is a double-edged sword.
What I love about blogging is that it is public and lots of people read what you write and can give input on it.
What I hate about blogging is that it is public and lots of people read what you write and can give input on it.
See what I mean?
I have SO many things I want to write about. Struggles, questions, thoughts, ideas, and facts.
But one by one, I cross things off of the list because it is either too personal or I know of someone (or more than one person) who reads my blog and would be offended by what I write, because it involves them in some way and if they figure that out, I am probably putting myself in an unwise position. Plus, it would be rude.
So a lot of things are left swirling in my brain like fall leaves in the gusty wind.
And I feel frustrated by that.
But, in an effort to let go of things I can’t control, I will move on to writing about something that I CAN write about.
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The random word of the day is “other”. Which, now that I think about it, kind of ties in to what I wrote above. When I can’t write about certain subjects, I find some other subject to write about.
Lately there was a discussion among my friends and we were talking about choices.
One person said that whenever we say “Yes” to a certain choice we are saying “No” to something else.
At first I disagreed. Because some choices seem very inconsequential to me and don’t seem like the kind of thing where you are really saying “Yes” to one thing and “No” to another.
My friend pointed out that, for instance, if you wear blue pants, then you are saying “No” to red. And every other color, for that matter. If you choose an angry response, you haven’t chosen a kind response. If you decide to drink coffee, then you are probably not drinking tea as well.
If you choose to eat cake, you aren’t eating cookies. (Wait a minute!!! I think I found the loophole. You can totally eat cake. And cookies. And pie. And cupcakes.)
Maybe then what you are saying “No” to is being healthy! Ha, ha.
We have a lot of choices every day. We can go one way or the other.
Not choosing “this” often means we choose “that” instead.
A lot of these choices are small and fairly meaningless, but a lot of them are not.
The things we choose to think about. The conversations we have. The type of lifestyle we lead. It all adds up to the sum of who we are. Over time, we build our parameters through which we view life. We decide what is OK and what is not. We form habits. We have a reputation with others.
So, next time you are just acting on instinct or choosing what seems obvious or natural, think about the other choices that you have. Think about how choosing one way automatically means you are not choosing the other way.
Choosing the other way might make all of the difference in the world!!
Comments (4)
wow, never thought about things that way, but it is true.
i relate to those feelings when it comes to blogging. it’s part of why i start writing and don’t finish and/or publish. and as far as the other part of of your post…good stuff. i am reminded of a pinterest pin about the universal paradox; being free to choose. but not free from the consequences. something like that. like it or not, there IS a ripple effect. good or bad. and it’s not always limited to us.
yes, yes, so true about the first part!!blogging can be so fun and so, um, frustrating. yes, i love my life and it’s so full of sweetness.and yes, there are some incredibly hard things that I can’t ever blog about so one might assume that nothing ever goes wrong. nope, it’s just that there’s no possible way to speak about it online!!with ya there, sistah!and the choices… hmmm, good things to remember… to choose love vs. unforgiveness. that’s not often even looked upon as a choice. such a challenge.
I totally relate to how you are feeling about what you can and can’t share on your blog. I’ve thought of starting an anonymous blog so that nobody will figure it out and I can say how I feel without worrying about offending anyone.